One of the saddest things is the person who has invested everything in a relationship and when the relationship ends they sadly ask themselves, “What do I do now?”
Often we feel that if we are loved by someone or if we love someone, then it is only natural to want to become the same person. This I find to be absurd, as if we truly love someone then our goal should be to want them to be all that they are and we should encourage them every inch of the way to becoming just that.
Everytime they do something that helps them to grow or learn something to help them to become more, we should dance and celebrate the occasion. You will not be growing apart by doing this, but rather you will be gaining the opportunity to grow together, hand in hand, and not melting one into the other.
You are a unique person, therefore it is impossible to melt into somebody else.
Your aim should be to always maintain who you are and to continue to grow through change, because eventually you will once again be faced with the “you”
The poet, Gibran once said in a poem of his, “Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one also be alone. Even as the strings of a lute are alone, though they quiver to the same music…..
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping, for only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. Stand together and yet not too near together for the pillars of the temple, in order to hold the temple up, stand apart. The oak tree and the cypress do not grow in each others’ shadow.
Don’t ever grow in anybody’s shadow, for it is there that you will wilt and forget who you are. You will lose you, and if you have lost you, then you have lost the most essential thing you have.
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